I didn't set out to become a life coach.

It actually started with a conversation at a bar.

I'd been talking with a bartender — someone I'd had probably hundreds of conversations with over the course of a year or so. Real conversations. The kind where you actually say what you're thinking.

One night, mid-sentence, she just stopped.

Looked at me and said, "Have you ever thought about becoming a life coach? You'd be amazing at it."

And then went right back to what she was saying.

That was it. No big speech. No follow-up. Just one sentence — and then she moved on like she hadn't just completely redirected my life.

I went home and started researching. I talked to friends. And one by one, they all said the same thing: "That's so you. That's literally who you already are."

And that's when it hit me.

Someone had seen something in me that I hadn't seen in myself yet — even though it had always been there.

That moment is why I do this work.

Because that's exactly what coaching is. It's not advice. It's not therapy. It's a conversation that helps you see what's already inside you — the clarity, the capability, the direction you've been looking for. My job is to ask the right questions until you find it.

I also know what it feels like to be on the other side of that.

There was a stretch of my life where I was doing everything right — showing up, working hard, being the person everyone counted on. And I still drove home some nights, sat in my driveway with the engine off, and thought: "Why do I feel this empty when I'm doing everything right?"

That wasn't a work problem. It was a belief problem.

I was running on the idea that I had to earn my worth. That if I just gave more, did more, proved more — eventually it would feel like enough.

It didn't. And it won't. Not until you change what's underneath.

That's the work.

I'm a certified life and performance coach based in Camas, Washington. My background is in hospitality and leadership — over a decade of building teams, developing people, and learning what growth actually looks like when it's real and not theoretical.

I'm currently completing my Masters of NLP certification, which will allow me to go even deeper with clients — working at the subconscious level to identify and shift the limiting beliefs and patterns that keep showing up no matter what someone tries on the surface.

Coaching with me is direct, honest, and conversational. I'll ask you questions you probably haven't asked yourself. I'll hold space without judgment. And I'll help you get from where you are to where you actually want to be.

Not by telling you what to do.

By helping you find what you already know.

— Truett Standefer